10 Proven Tips on How to Be More Patient

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How to be more patient as our lives become busier and more stressful is a real challenge. As human beings, we seem to be hard wired to react to situations with anger and frustration. However, it is possible to apply a range of tactics that can help us resist an instant emotional response to others. Patience is a virtue well worth developing and brings it’s own rewards. So, here are my ten favorite techniquesI have used to become a more patient  person.

How to Be More Patient- Tip#1 – The Power  of Awareness

Self awareness is the first step to personal change and development. Therefore, start making a note of the what and when you tend to lose your patience. As you build your own picture, its possible to then become aware of situations, people and events that may trigger your impatience. In fact, by just becoming aware of your regular triggers it’s often possible to control how you respond in the future. However, we may need additional tools other than personal awareness alone. Therefore, add the following ideas into your patience building toolkit.

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How to Be More Patient- Tip#2 – The Truth in Old Sayings

Like many old sayings, the idea of counting to ten when feel your impatience rising has an element of truth.  In fact, counting to ten has a direct relation to how our brain works. We have a direct path in our brain from event to action without conscious thought. It is this direct path that allows us to respond instantly to dangers to keep us safe. Unfortunately, this instant response is often where impatience occurs.

By counting to ten, we give time for our rational brain to kick in and review the event that just happened. Therefore, by delaying an immediate response of anger or irritation, we give time for a more considered and patient response to events. If giving your brain time to consciously decide how to react, then try the power of distance in the next tip.

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How to Be More Patient- Tip#3 – The Power of Distance

Sometimes, no matter how much we try to maintain our patience, it does not work. In these cases, the best option is to just walk away from the situation.  Use the power of distance to physically remove yourself from the person or event that creates frustration or anger.  Taking a few minutes break can allow us to reclaim our calm and to plan how we would like to respond. Also, by giving yourself the gift of distance you may be able to return with well thought out ideas and actions to help you move past the situation that created impatience.

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How to Be More Patient- Tip#4 – Mini Steps

Trying to improve your patience is no different to any other self development. The key is not to try and make massive change because that’s where we often fail. So, learn the power of mini steps and apply your new techniques over time. Become aware of progress, and don’t beat yourself up if patience doesn’t come straight away. In fact,it take repetition over time in order to develop any new habit or trait. So, be patient with yourself when trying to be more patient with others.

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How to Be More Patient- Tip#5 – Strong Mind

We often lose our patience when our mind becomes stressed and we react instinctively. One of the most  powerful ways I have found to dramatically improve levels of patience is through mindfulness and meditation. Hundreds of University studies show that mindfulness meditation improves brain function. For me, regular mindfulness meditation practice seems to have rewired my brain so that I am able to react to challenges without losing patience. So, mindfulness meditation is a great way of reducing  the emotional responses that cause impatience. However, mindfulness meditation takes time and regular practice in order to reap it’s proven and well documented benefits.

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How to Be More Patient- Tip#6 – Affirming Patience

Another powerful way to improve patience is to use regular daily affirmations and visualization. This works particularly well for situations that seem to regularly cause you to lose your patience. Affirmations and visualization allow you to see yourself acting in powerful new ways in situations that may currently create challenges for you. Therefore, no matter what trait you want to develop, start reshaping how you react to the world by using daily affirmations and visualization.

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How to Be More Patient- Tip#7 – Pressure Release

Modern life can be very stressful and leave us feeling frustrated and overwhelmed.  As human beings, we are similar to pressure cookers. The more heat and steam we build up, the more we need to find ways to safely vent the pressure of stress and frustration as it builds.  Here are just a few ideas that helped me reduce the pressure of frustration. Exercising your body is a great way of relieving stress when you feel frustration building. Therefore,  take a short break or a brisk walk, or take out your frustration on a punching bag. In fact, any short sharp exercise can help to reduce feelings of stress and frustration. Another great way to reduce stress is to use some mindfulness exercises when you feel your frustration growing.

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How to Be More Patient- Tip#8 – The Power of Choice

We can all learn a great tip from Cognitive Behavioral  Therapy which is all about choosing how we behave. CB therapy suggests every activating event comes with an internal belief about it’s impact on us. It’s this internal belief that then triggers our automatic behavior particularly when it comes to fear, anxiety and anger. Finally, when we observe our actions or related behavior, we can see that we do have choice over how we react to any  event or stimulus.

Therefore, CB therapy shows us that we can chose how we react to any event. In fact, we don’t have to let our mind work on autopilot.This technique is really useful for events or situations that regularly cause us to lose our patience. Simply review these and imagine what other choice you could make other than anger or frustration. Then the next time you feel your patience slipping, simply stop, make your new choice and smile. You have just succeeded in changing your automatic behavior in reaction to what was previously a challenging situation.

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How to Be More Patient- Tip#9 – The Ultimate Human Power

As we live more mindfully we can become more aware of our choices.  Also, it becomes possible to observe that we all have human frailties. We all express a range of emotions, some of which are constructive and others that are not. The more we become the observer of the human condition, the more we see that we are all stuck at various stages of self-awareness. With time and practice, it’s possible to use this understanding to defuse our feelings of impatience.

So, the next time you feel your patience slipping, make the choice to think about the other person. There is an old saying about walking a mile in someone’s shoes that suddenly rings true. With practice, you can chose to not focus on your own emotions and to see that we all have behaviors that impact others. This is about recognizing that we human beings all have limited self-awareness. In fact, we often run our lives on auto-pilot without even understanding how we impact others around us.

This is the point where we can begin to practice the power of forgiveness for others and ourselves.  We don’t have to react to any situation with uncontrolled emotions. In fact, we can chose to see our human limitations and so offer empathy and love towards others. This can be as simple as count to ten, smile and listen without taking a position on what is happening.

Use the Greatest Power

The greatest power we human beings can apply is Love and Empathy towards others. These powerful traits have the ability to transform relationships and lives. So, the next time you feel anger rising, simply become mindful of the power of love, empathy and forgiveness. Remember that you have a choice about how you react to any situation.

Make no mistake, this is not some mushy, roll over and play dead tactic that allows others to mistreat you. In fact, it’s about taking a truly powerful position. It’s not about letting people walk all over you, but learning to harness the power of kindness, understanding and love. The more we learn to understand and forgive others, the more we are likely to forgive our own errors. Also, the more we apply empathy and love, the more empathy and love we attract to our own lives.

Just try this, and keep practicing.

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How to Be More Patient- Tip#10 – The Power of Laughter

Once we accept that we are human and not perfect, it’s much easier to switch into a lighter mood more easily. Also, in the previous tip you can prove to yourself that our behavior is a choice. We can with practice train ourselves to react more positively to any situation.

Surely life is to be enjoyed and not endured. So, learn to lighten up and bring the power of laughter into your life and remember to smile more. When we smile, it’s almost impossible to feel any other emotion other than joy and happiness. The more we smile, the more we find that we attract positive situations to us and the less chance we have of losing our patience.

How to Be More Patient- Tip#10 – What Next?

There is no silver bullet to becoming more patient. The key is to find what works for you and keep practicing. Also, remember we are human and therefore not perfect. No matter how much we decide to chose our response, or smile, or meditate or use mindfulness, nothing will stop us from losing patience occasionally. So, be gentle with yourself. Life is full of learning opportunities. Embrace them!

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